I was talking to a professor today, and he said something that really meant a lot to me. "If a guy is intimidated by your ambition by majoring in Chemical Engineering, he doesn't deserve you." This sentence rang true. I can't tell you for how long I have avoided talking about or bringing up majors with guys because I had a couple bad experiences. They all have about the same basic story line. It came up that I majored in Chemical Engineering and the conversation suddenly dies, and I never hear from him again. If it makes him uncomfortable that I'm majoring in engineering, that means that he is embarrassed of me. Our ambitions to live the gospel will never match, and that is really the most important.
The same goes the other way as well. I can't be embarrassed about the major that is going to end up supporting my family. I can't be embarrassed that I'm the one who wants to stay home. Even though I'm majoring in Chemical Engineering, I don't want to work after I have kids. I am getting my degree because I want to be educated and because I like it. I will support myself if I never end up getting married, and I will help my husband if we need help getting on our feet, but I do not want to work once I have kids. I don't want both of us to feel awkward about which adult is supporting the family.
Bottom line: It's not a bad thing that some guys are intimidated because of my major. It helps weed out some of the ones I don't want anyway. I should just stop shying away from it.
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